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Why does everyone want to be a manager?

October 22, 2018 by Brian Goodman No Comments
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READING TIME: 6 MIN

Q: Why does everyone want to be a manager?

A:

Who is everyone?

Not everyone wants to be a manager.
Not everyone wants to be a manager. Some people find themselves in the role accidentally or reluctantly – someone else positioned them as leaders. Others became managers out of aspiration, but later realize the lack of interest or alignment in the role and then struggle to secede the position. Being a manager means being a leader and getting the opportunity lets you assess if it’s the best use of you.

People often say they are driven by power, money, fame or prestige. Notably absent is happiness, productivity and impact!
So, if not everyone wants to be a manager, why does it feel like sometimes everyone you know wants to become one. That has more to do with what seems to drive most people, often a combination of power, money, fame or prestige. To be clear, we are not taking a position on if these are the right things to be driven by. Notice for example happiness, productivity or impact are not listed. That said, of power, money, fame or prestige are presented in the discussion when considering professional motivation and used here to at least address common (mis)beliefs.

Aspiring to be a manager

Power

“…I can tell others what to do.”
In a recent Harvard Business Review article, Bill Taylor cited the responses of an MIT Sloan School of Management class asked what it meant to be promoted to manager. The response? “They said without hesitation, ‘It means I can now tell others what to do.’” Taylor’s article is interesting in of itself, but as we reviewed the question for this week, that quote stood out. At a minimum we can see that for some people, becoming a manager has to do with the power of directing the work of others.

Money

Managers typically make more money. Why? They are responsible for the success (and failures) of others and their scope encompasses the scopes of the individuals they lead. Added compensation is simply recognizing the change in contribution.

Fame & Prestige

Not all promotions are based on merit, so titles are not always qualitative.
Becoming a manager can be a gateway to becoming an executive. Most executives have management responsibilities and while rank does not always correlate with effective leadership there is a belief that to have made it to that level, you must be accomplished. The challenge with most promotions is that they may or may not be merit based. While that may seem counter intuitive, there are lots of reasons people get promoted and being an awesome leader is not always a requirement. Here in lies the other two motivating factors, fame and prestige.

Fame

Fame is the recognition of being known for the achievement of the title. It is not uncommon to hear reverence to a certain rank in a company. In banks it is having the title of Managing Director. It doesn’t matter that you might have a chain of managing directors before finding the head of the bank, they all share the title and the rank is significant in that ecosystem. In other workplaces it might be a Senior Vice President title, where it distinguishes the senior most leadership running the company. Either way, some people like being known in their circles as having “made it.”

Prestige

Prestige on the other hand is all about the admiration for the merit of the position. This distinguishes from the ambiguity often found in manager promotions where it is not always clear what the basis of the promotion is, and instead it speaks to the required evidence of past success. Prestige is often brought to the title vs. inherently residing in the role. It may be difficult to become CEO, so even if you do not know the individual in the role, you know its hard to achieve. As a manager, you must merit the admiration to achieve prestige.  

None of those qualities motivates you?

Happiness doesn’t come from a title.
The promotion to manager is about embracing the responsibility of a challenging dynamic and scope. Often you keep the responsibilities that positioned you as an SME (subject matter expert) and add the new goals of leading and developing a team—working through others. Most importantly, becoming a manager is taking on the responsibility for a part of the business. Until that moment, you are contributing but not fully responsible. As you enter and progress through management roles your closeness to business increases. With the added scope and success, you benefit with additional rewards… power, money, fame or prestige. What won’t be answered by finding yourself with a fancy title is happiness.

Become a manager because you want the leadership experience and stay one because you are uniquely capable in the role.
Happiness as it relates to work comes with your ability to succeed with work you are passionate about. While not everyone believes in or works from a source of passion, it impacts fulfillment. If your work is not making you happy, make sure something else is. Ideally, align your work with what you love because suddenly all you are doing is living.

People want to be managers for a variety of reasons, chief among them is the thought that the grass is greener in a position of power. If they find out its not, then it is often thought that at least being in charge of others over less or equally green grass is a better position to be in. These are all misguided ideas.

  • First, you can be a leader without being a manager. However, not having management experience will make it harder to successfully deliver in executive ranks. That is okay, because those roles are not for everyone.
  • Second, become a manager because you want the leadership experience and stay one because you are uniquely capable in the role.

Three tools for all leaders

READ
The First 90 Days: Proven Strategies for Getting Up to Speed Faster and Smarter, Updated and Expanded

by Michael D. Watkins

READ
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life

by Mark Manson

READ
The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results

by Gary Keller and
Jay Papasan

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What is a reluctant leader?

October 1, 2018 by Brian Goodman 1 Comment
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READING TIME: 5 MIN

Q: What is a reluctant leader?

A:

We have a leadership problem. It is easy to write that, because I know you have run into at least one leader or manager that you didn’t like. One of the things that gets drummed into you from all the books and classes is that all the good and bad in an organization is a result of the leadership. What is always amazing is how many ineffective leaders exist and worse yet, that they are tolerated. 

all the good and bad in an organization is a result of the leadership

The reluctant leader

Let me introduce to you the reluctant leader. This is the person who is passionate about what the organization is doing and what he or she can do to achieve more. People seek them out because of their experience and expertise and because they are part of the team are easily approachable. There is a level of humility that comes from a genuine desire to serve the greater good and that conscience is a critical part of what makes the reluctant leader a potentially great leader.

Why are they reluctant?

Reluctant leaders do not identify themselves as leaders and certainly not managers. They are deliberately choosing to forgo a power position because they are happy with the way things are. We all have had experiences with bad leaders and reluctant ones don’t want to become one of those! Reluctant leaders have many of the qualities, readily established relationships and subject matter expertise that set them up for success. If only they saw themselves as others do.

Reluctant leaders are hesitant because they have yet to recognize that what they have to offer is actually better…
Reluctant leaders are hesitant because they have yet to recognize that what they have to offer is actually better than the alternatives. With the right support, they can transition to a leadership role with authority and make a huge difference to all the people and things about which they already care.

What makes reluctant leaders different?

It is not uncommon the hear people talk about “natural born leaders” as if leadership is not a skill, even though it is! Reluctant leaders need to be shown how they are already a leader in the organization and that a formal role does not have to significantly change all the great things they are doing. Certainly, there are new things they will need to do and fulfilling that responsibility, while potentially challenging is actually executed with more humanity than overly eager leaders. The reason some of the “HR” type tasks are seemingly more difficult to a reluctant leader is because they are highly motivated by their conscience; the team has always come first; they have deep relationships with their people. This is not to say that eager leaders don’t have these things, it is more that these conditions are generally more common for reluctant leaders.

An example of how reluctant leaders often find themselves conflicted
Jan is a recent reluctant leader of a high performing team. She knows all of her team members well and thinks highly of them. They have been in the trenches together and she supports them eagerly. After all, this is one of the reasons Jan decided a management role would be okay.

Jan’s manager gives her the news that the company is going through a resource action and people would need to be selected to be laid off. Jan starts by speaking truth to power and making the case that none of her people are under-performing, performing redundant tasks or in a job family that is no longer valued. Jan’s manager repeats the directive. Jan is left to identify and then communicate that this person, someone she considers a friend, has only weeks left to their employment.

Jan is conflicted because she is compelled to execute on behalf of the company against her better judgment and so, while she would rather not, she understands this is part of running a business.

Motivated by conscience, people and passion

Reluctant leaders are often identified by their position within the group and are selected to fill vacancies where a different motivation would be a less optimal choice. Leadership teams have additional homework to coach reluctant leaders through new and challenging experiences. Left to their own devices, reluctant leaders would step down from the formal organization, remember they didn’t choose it, it was chosen for them.

Next steps: Actions that change everything

  1. If you are a manager of a reluctant leader, listen and acknowledge their concerns so that those topics can become open for ongoing discussion. Find ways to meet them where they are and how they are experiencing their work and roles. Remember those new management conversations are going to be difficult. Don’t dump the hard work on them. Instead, share in the challenge and help them execute confidently.
  2. If you are a reluctant leader, seek out the support you need to be effective. Ideally, seek out your manager. In the absence of formal support, seek out blogs, podcasts and videos that can help. There isn’t a universal recipe on leadership. The whole point is to develop the leader you are.
  3. Identify your up-and-coming leaders early. Leaders that have been coached into a management role often find greater success than ones that get opportunistically promoted without the time to think about what it means.

Three tools for all leaders

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Leadership Guide for the Reluctant Leader
David Neal at NDC

READ

Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t
by Simon Sinek

WATCH

How to Be a Linchpin
Seth Godin on Impact Theory

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